Nothing could be further from the truth. Many of those people 1 are in zombie relationships, or are just waiting until the kids turn 18 to leave, or are emotionally stunted, because they’ve never had to do the hard work you’re doing right now. Try your best to avoid the Smug Marrieds™ you know, and start perfecting your snappy comebacks about why you’re still single. I was a fan of, ‘I don’t know; why do you think you settled?’ but I have a bitchy streak. YMMV.
1 But not all, to be sure. An awful damn lot, though. posted by culfinglin at 7:14 PM on [27 favorites]
almost anything else a woman wants to do with her life, she can do more easily without all but the most extraordinary of male partners. Of my many married friends, even in those marriages where I genuinely like the men, only the smallest handful have even a rough reciprocity of effort put into maintaining the household and the marriage (at least from the outside, but then the divorces happen and your suspicions get confirmed. ) So. whatever positive things there are that you want to put your life into achieving, do them. . But I also hope you have other purposes in your life, because this is your chance to further them.
THIS. Once you’re married with babies (if it happens), your time is going to be dedicated to them and your next AskMe will probably be about how to wheedle the hubby into doing the dishes while you bathe your kid.Leggi tutto